Earlier this week I was listening to The Older Brother podcast featuring, well, the only podcaster I listen too, Aaron Clarey, aka: Captain Capitalism. It’s a good podcast and younger folk may want to listen in for some wisdom from older guys (and a girl) as well as some b.s. and funny stories along the way. Its their “PG-13” podcast. Something was brought up during the podcast (it was an older one, not the most recent) that made a good and salient point for you married women out there.
I forget exactly what discussion led up to it, but the point was brought up that men like to see their wives naked and this fact should not offend wives. In fact, wives should feel more concern about their husbands NOT asking to see them naked! Most women give this no thought until its far too late, and that’s as shame. At some point, ladies, and this holds true for men too, you will stop being noticed by the opposite sex. Sure young men might hold the door open for you or help you take your groceries out to the car, but the last thing on their minds is that they would want to see you naked. I know, this stings, as women’s entire lives really are geared around sexual attention. However, there is one guy in the world you can ensure will enjoy seeing you naked for the rest of your life – your husband! Yes, yes, he will ALWAYS enjoy looking at the firm busts and buns of younger ladies, just get over it, it doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you. Your body, however, will always be special to him!
Well. It CAN be.
See, your body is either going to be your husbands playground or his battleground. If your stingy with your body, always hiding it, making sex a difficult or boring endeavor or always denigrating yourself these things will be programmed into your husbands visual cue for your body.
Think about something special in your home. An object that is associated with memories, good or bad. Now think about how, when you see said object, the things you remember and the feelings associated with it. That object is a visual cue for your brain to recall things, for better or worse.
(Note: The first person to bring up women being “objectified” gets a permanent ban.)
When you do these things your husbands brain gets programmed to associate the visual cue of your naked body with mostly negative things. Boring, forgettable, starfish sex. Frumpy, baggy, shapeless clothing. Or maybe nothing at all as he hasn’t really seen you naked in daylight (or lamplight) in a decade. Now, this isn’t to say that your husband isn’t going to be aroused by your nakedness simply because your naked, he is, after all, a man. However as you get older the visual stimuli will start to decrease and the mental image will start to take over.
This mental image is sometimes referred to as ‘wife goggles”.
When your body is your husbands battleground that’s all he is going to remember when you are both much older and he sees you naked. Is that what you want? You’re building a set of “wife goggles” that will see “old ironsides” instead of “woah, sexy mamma”!
When your body is your husbands playground, however, the visual cue for your nakedness will bring up memories of – what? His wife dancing around in her underwear? Wild, passionate, messy sex? Laughing? Playing? Nudes sent via text?
I recall an incident when I had to travel a short distance out of town for a meeting over a control system with a fairly good sized oil company. Not one of the big players, but a big player where I’m from. It was mid-morning and myself and the other attendees were just settling down in a rather large, 1970’s decorated conference room when my phone buzzed. It was a text from my wife. Thinking nothing of it I popped the text open to see what was up. Well, I can only leave it to your imagination as to what I saw. Rather shocked, and more than pleasantly surprised, I found myself having to quickly close said text! Fortunately no one spotted what I had received so there were no problems, but I still remember it to this day!
Ladies, YOU have the power to form, in your husbands mind, how he sees you for the rest of your life! You can program his “wife goggles”! Don’t get offended that he’s asking for boob shots or clips of you doing naughty things to yourself because some day you may find yourself wondering why he doesn’t ask for those things anymore. By then it will be too late! Do both of you a favor and start building up those memories TODAY! RIGHT NOW! Don’t wait for him to ask! You know your husband! You know what he likes! Try new things! Get Mandy-cized! Do a little sexy research! Give him a gift that keeps on giving! Wake him up to the smell of pancakes and bacon and his wife in nothing but some heels and an apron! Don’t wait for him to ask you for a blowjob, ASK HIM IF YOU CAN GIVE HIM ONE FIRST! You want to see a stunned look on his face? Try that! I guarantee most guys will actually be thrown off by such a thing! Your being intimidated, self-conscious and hesitant only keeps the both of you from good things! Today and in the future.
Snapper – i’ve never thought of things in this way before … that what we do and present while we’re young and have those great bodies creates memories and images for our husbands to draw on later in life when … well, life happens 😉
Yeah, I dont think many women consider this. Most people, men and women, don’t think to look that far into the future, they tend to live in the moment or the short-term future. I mean, we always want to make good memories with our families and even with our spouses, but there are certain memories that are shared ONLY between spouses. Memories of crazy, stupid sex, “dangerous” encounters in odd places where you probably shouldn’t be doing what your doing but you do it anyway because its fun and the most that would happen if you got caught was someone yelling at you. And, yes, eventually both mens and womens bodies start to sag and dont look as great as they did in the past, but I think that, for women, its not such a big deal if their husbands aren’t as tight and strong as they once were so long as they can keep their weight under control, but the way women see themselves is different. They are very critical of themselves as they get older and because of this they start to share their bodies less and less with their husbands. First its “lights out only” sex, then its throwing the towel around the body as soon as her foot steps out of the shower and, what I think is the worse because my wife does this, the negative comments. It’s very insulting for our wives to denigrate themselves when husbands pay them compliments. Its the equivalent of saying “what you like is dumb” or “you dont know what your talking about”, yet let us husbands go long periods of time without saying anything and it becomes an insult to our wives. Just go with it! Men compliment their wives because they love them and because WIFE GOGGLES ARE REAL! Your husband REALLY DOES LOVE YOUR BODY when he says he likes your boobs or wants you to shake your rear for him a little. WHEN WIVES DENIGRATE THEMSELVES OR TELL THEIR HUSBANDS THEY ARE DUMB FOR APPRECIATING THEIR BODIES THEY ARE DAMAGING THE VIEW FROM THOSE GOGGLES! Its the equivalent of telling your kids that Santa doesn’t exist when they have believed their entire lives that he has! Your husband BELIEVES your body is awesome because to him IT IS! Why would a woman do her best to STRIP THAT VIEW AWAY??
Its very counter-intuitive and goes completely against what women want. Women WANT SEXUAL ATTENTION, right? That’s why they put on makeup and select the best clothing that accentuates their bust and buns BEFORE THEY HEAD TO THE GROCERY STORE! In fact, just this morning I went to the Home Depot and I saw some young lady (good lord I hope she was at least 18) walking around in what looked like a dress meant for hitting the club. Her thong underwear were not difficult to see through the fabric and she was shopping FOR FENCE BOARDS!
(This isn’t the first time I’ve seen ladies dolled up to “shop” at the hardware store and trust me, they ain’t shopping for yard tools unless she needs a burly guy who can swing hammer for her lawn)
Women know how they dress and they know why they dress the way they do. They may not want sex from another man, but they like being secure in the knowledge that they are pleasing to look at. A WIFE SHOULD NOT WANT TO RUIN THE WAY HER HUSBAND SEES HER WITH HER CLOTHES OFF AS IT KILLS OFF THE ONE GUY WHO WILL LIKELY FIND HER SEXY AND BEAUTIFUL WELL INTO OLD AGE.
Sorry, long reply, but I’ve already had a couple of energy drinks this morning and my mind is racing. 🤪
Sorry, long reply, but I’ve already had a couple of energy drinks this morning and my mind is racing.
Snapper – bless your heart, you don’t need energy drinks for a long reply! 🙂 🙂 🙂
anyway … you are absolutely correct, and i’ve addressed this specifically before. i’ll come back to it as i don’t have time right now … but you made me laugh 🙂
If wifey won’t put out sooner or later he’ll find someone who will.
i think it’s hard, but necessary, for us wives to accept and believe the compliments our husbands give us. and it truly is very hard b/c we’re often quite critical of our bodies. learning and choosing to believe our Man is critically important.
Howdy! This article could not be written much better! Looking at this article reminds me of my previous roommate! He constantly kept talking about this. I most certainly will forward this article to him. Pretty sure he’s going to have a very good read. Thanks for sharing!