What is so offensive about sex to Christians? I mean, they obviously have it, seeing as how they have children. God blessed us with the act and tasked us with partaking in it to “be fruitful and multiply”. The act creates marriage between a man and a woman, and men are told to let their wives bodies satisfy them at all times.
In the bible, Song of Solomon goes a step further and gets into some gritty details about how to enjoy your spouses bodies! I’ve read before that younger men weren’t even allowed to look into the book until they reached a proper age it was considered so graphic! Even by todays standards its not exactly bible study discussion material!
Ladies, what do you find so offensive about adult material? Personally I think it’s not so much offense as it is jealousy. I mean, its pixels on monitor, a picture on a screen. It’s not a real flesh-and-blood person, and yet women get so offended when they think about their husbands watching it. I know, I know, not ALL women think this way. There are, indeed, some women out there who embrace and enjoy watching adult materials either with or without their husbands.
Christians have deemed pornography “The New Drug” and something that is horrific, offensive and ungodly. Though I wouldn’t go as far as to call it “godly” I don’t see how it is the society ending ticket to hell most think it is. Now, I have said in the past that The New Drug, for all its worth, is actually PUSHED BY THE CHURCH, UNINTENTIONALLY when they teach young ladies to hold off on getting married, having sex and birthing children until their late 20’s/early 30’s. By doing so they remove the solution to the problem of “burning with lust” prescribed in the bible, namely, marriage, and force young men to turn to other means to relieve the sting of sexual hunger. Many pastors and Christians chide those young men for not being able to pray away their desire for sex, but this is both a cruel and brainless practice! The desire for sex is not simply mental but physical, as a young boys body becomes flooded with testosterone during puberty the desire for sex becomes a real and physical itch!
So what would happen if, instead, the church taught young wives to embraced the “adult film star” mindset rather than teaching them how to be stingy with their bodies. Teaching them to be a wellspring of sex (Proverbs 5:18) rather than a carefully controlled and regulated drip? Why the desire by the church to stymie and stem the uncontrolled flow of sex in a marriage? Its counter to scripture and counter to the well being of a marriage relationship.
Have any of these Christian ladies ever taken time to watch adult video to find out whats so appealing to men? I mean, the default answer would simply be “naked ladies and raw sex”, but I can assure you the appeal is much deeper.
Attitude.
Attitude! You’d be surprised at how many ladies out there, performing in these videos, are not the perfect 10 you’d think. Sure there are a lot (A LOT) of seemingly perfect women out there, but there are a lot of NOT so perfect women who’s bodies are nice, but who’s attitudes radiate HAPPINESS. Yes, I know, they are acting and many of them may not, in fact, be happy, seeing as how reports indicate many of them live rough lives, but that never stopped any women from enjoying any other media where people with horrible lives are acting out being happy, so just discount that excuse altogether.
HAPPY! EXCITED! MOTIVATED! ENAMORED! ENTHUSIASTIC!
These are all things that ANY WOMAN CAN EMULATE, and that make a huge difference in the sex life of her and her husband! It is the simplest, least expensive, fastest change a woman can make, but it is far, far from the easiest! It means letting go of YOUR wants, YOUR hang ups, YOUR worries and concentrating on YOUR husband! Or, to make things easier for yourself, it means learning to LOVE SEX! It means getting rid of the lessons pounded into your head from childhood that sex is yucky, and that girls who love sex are all loose whores. WHO CARES! BE A LOOSE WHORE IN YOUR HUSBANDS BEDROOM! HE WON’T COMPLAIN! Rare is the man who, when presented with the second or third surprise blowjob of the week will grab his wife by the shoulders and say, “Woah! Wait a minute! You’re acting like a whore and this has to stop!” Rare is the man who, when his wife pulls down her panties, flips up her dress, bends over the kitchen counter and declares “I need you to fuck me, now”, turns away, disgusted at her “whorish” behavior.
Wear what he likes! Do what he wants! Try weird and fantastic positions, toys, ointments, syrups, oils, places! Work on your bedroom eyes, your lip-licks, your hair-flips! Grab his crotch when he least expects it, or have him grab yours!
I know, I know, its so much work! Why do YOU have to do everything? Why do YOU have to be the one making the effort when he could just as easily be doing these kinds of things!
First off, your attitude about sex has likely hampered him unleashing his. Men don’t think about sex as often as women think we do, but we do think about it a lot. A lot of men would love to just be able to come home on their lunch breaks, bend their wife over for a quickie, then head back to the office. Unfortunately many women are trained to find this offensive! “There’s no love in that!”, “I’m not just a piece of meat!”, “He just wants me for sex!”. WHAT? There is TONS of love in that! HE wants YOU, his wife, the woman he married! He doesn’t see you as just a piece of meat and whats wrong with him just wanting you for sex? Do you realize that, prior to marriage, every other service you could provide as a wife could be bought and taken care of by a business? In fact, even sex could be bought and taken care of but this man chose to take a step that binds you to him as his one and only sex partner?
I wouldn’t be surprised if a few hours of “porn star training” for wives saved more marriages than “Christian counseling” and prayer! What are you praying for?! The bible tells you what to do! Submit to your husband as unto the Lord! Respect him, obey him! Are you praying for another way to fix things?
Over the past century the church in the West has become increasing infected by “strange doctrines” that are counter to the teachings of the bible. Sex, one of the greatest gifts given to mankind by God, something holy and good, has been turned into something unholy and unclean by those who should be promoting it the most. Do yourself a favor, learn to be your husbands porn star.
It will benefit you.
It will benefit him.
And, yes, it will be blessed.
Awake, O north wind,
And come, O south!
Blow upon my garden,
That its spices may flow out.
Let my beloved come to his garden
And eat its pleasant fruits.
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Aside from the not-quite-excusing of pornography, the premise seems pretty well sound. Took out the pin-ups & sent it to my wife.
We shall see how THAT goes…
Well, I don’t see pornography (aka: Adult material) as being a problem unless it becomes a problem, similar to drinking.
Hopefully the pinups will give the wife some ideas and you will be happier for it! 😆
I like the second picture.
I was always that guy at Bible camp asking if we’ll be able to bang girls in heaven, I was never much liked by the leadership…
I hate how churchians love to add to Gods commands. If a man wants his wife to ride him (a practice that Augustine thought was disgusting, and yes he really does mention it and describe it, the weirdo) who cares, it’s their bedroom and their business. As long as you are not committing adultery or sexual immorality you can do what you want.
That would be Saber, of the FATE/Stay Night series. A little more artsy than the other two, though the third one is by artist Dean Yeagle, who REALLY, REALLY knows how to draw the female form. That is his signature character, Mandy, and she certainly is fantastic!
That was the point of my post, that Christians (or, Churchians, rather) have been putting sex in a negative light for, what, decades? Centuries? Why? Don’t we want the gospel to propagate through generations? If so then why not ensure there are generations, and them some, to spread the gospel! If children are as arrows in the quiver to a man then why not ensure there are plenty of arrows! I think other manospherian bloggers are right: All this down play on sex is supported by men who can’t get any or have to struggle to obtain it. If they can’t have it on tap then they will assure no other man does either! To turn such a gift into something thought of as raunchy and a “necessary evil” is blasphemous in my book.
I don’t believe the churchians give a damm about increasing the size of the kingdom. All they care about are their egos and wallets.
The churchians are clearly not getting much action. I’ve been lectured by multiple men on how we need to respect da wimminz/objectification is bad/be a nice guy/choreplay brings the action/X Y Z is banned in the bedroom. The men lecturing me often have fattie wives who clearly are not that attracted to their husbands…
All this is is fulfillment of Pauls prophecy that in the latter time false teachers will show up and tell men not to taste/touch etc.
I’m getting closer and closer to finally trying to assemble a group of men for a home study. I know I’m going to have to go through what my understanding of scripture is, and I want to make it clear up front so that nobody gets involved and is suddenly shocked when I speak my mind on certain scriptures. I think its the only thing one can do now to avoid being inundated with false teachings! Naturally I think most men will absolutely be offended at the concept of husbands having unfettered access to their wives bodies, along with many other scriptural truths. I know, I was one of those guys, brought up in the church with little to no actual studying of my own. When I first started to read and understand it blew my mind. Hopefully I can get some good fishermen out of the group and we can start spreading out. That’s my plan, anyway.
That sounds good. If men are offended at what the Bible says then they can leave the same way they came in!
I don’t believe many men do much studying on their own if at all. My dad has read the Bible a bunch of times but that hasn’t stopped him being a feminist. Perhaps it goes in one way and out the other.
I think it requires some understanding of putting parts of the bible in proper reference to others. For many years I read, but didn’t put two and two together. There was a desire to read but not to understand, and I think that’s where a lot of guys lose it. We think READING the bible is good because we are told God will still use even that, the most minimal, of effort, but what we need is understanding, which requires an actual effort, which requires time, which we are not often willing to give up.
In my parents case, they’re both feminists so when they read a ‘sexist’ verse in the Bible they either ignore it or interpret it in a way that pleases them by destroying what the verse says. Same with my future brother in law….
They have convinced themselves that God would never endorse the Evil of ‘sexism’ or ‘misogyny’ so therefore any verse which commands wives to submit to their husbands can’t possibly mean that because then God would be sexist and that’s not possible.
It’s unfortunate that so many people seem to know the mind of God well enough that they can deem what He would and wouldn’t call sin, even though its plainly spelled out in scripture. I think that is the problem of the entirety of Western churches, they have made the laws of man the laws of God, and deem people sinners if they fail to hold up to them. Unfortunately they have convinced people that, because they hold degrees from bible colleges that they know better, so they are blindly followed.
The problem is they don’t believe and obey what they Bible says! My dad KNOWS what it says, but he doesn’t practice it because he’s a feminist and he thinks its sexist. I’m remember him saying about submission that if he had to force mum to submit then he’s failed as a husband or something. So by that logic, women can disobey their husbands and men have to sit on their hands and do nothing because disciplining your wife is sexist and bad….
Yes, much in the way that a fire marshal having to tell his men what to do makes him a failure as a marshal. Or the way commanding troops under his command makes a five-star general a failure if he has to force them to storm a position. But, of course, it really boils down to a refusal to be obedient to God. The question of an earthly authority like a fire marshal or a general or the government forcing its people to act in a certain way is easily understood, and we are forced every day. Forced to follow a certain speed limit, forced to behave in a certain way, forced, forced, forced, and this is totally acceptable! But when it comes to submitting to God our rebellious human nature kicks in and suddenly we are oppressed. The same goes for His commandments. We have not problem with them coming from anyone but God – then its just wrong.
My point was the politicians get to enforce what they want, the CEOs and high ups in corporations get to enforce what they want, judges can do what they want, but men can’t discipline their wives because sexism.
I was out for lunch today and there is a guy in the group who is a feminist. He tries to attract a certain single lady he is in to by displaying what a wonderful feminist he is and how he is Not Like Those Other Guys who are sexist. But she’s known him about 8 months and they’re not dating. What a joke! It’s a bit like a peacock displaying his plumage to attract a mate, but instead he displays what a massive p***y he is…. (Hope you don’t mind that use of language but it communicates what I’m saying most effectively).
No, your fine with the language.
Yeah it doesn’t do any good if they aren’t Christian because to them the laws and design of God make no difference. You could always go the “evolution and physiology” route by explaining that men are better at leading than women even from a non-Christian evolutionary standpoint, but they really think that acting as a subordinate will get them the pussy they want (obviously it doesn’t). It’s even worse if you go at it from a non-Christian standpoint because that means that strictly on an evolutionary level, women are attracted to the strongest, best males, even in the animal kingdom, of which guys like this one you are describing is not. Even in a “female driven” society like those of lions, where the females do all the work and raise the young ones and all that jazz, they STILL go for the strongest male to father their cubs. Its pure blindness no matter how you look at it.
They are creeps. At least the jerkboys are up front and honest about what they want and women can choose whether or not they want to go to bed with them. But the male feminist puts on this display of being Not At All About Getting Into Your Underwear when in reality they have the same objective as the jerkboy but they are too weak and cowardly to be open about it.
I don’t think there’s much point going at it from evolution with these guys. People who claim they’re all ‘rational’ and about ‘evidence’ (whilst mocking Christians) are usually very selective about what evidence they believe.
He has described himself as being ‘painfully single’ in front of everyone to our manager who is a 50 something single feminist woman who is very overweight. (She too bemoans being single but isn’t doing nothing to make herself more attractive) He clearly wants a girl but he’s determined to use his ‘male feminist’ credentials to get a girl which has been a total failure. His previous girlfriend cheated on him TWICE!!!! before dumping him by text (again he said this to everyone at the pub once), and yet he STILL continues to be a male feminist despite it all!
Should be ‘isn’t doing anything’