My job as a man, Part 3

Authority and Discipline

And now we come to the part of the story that nobody really likes to talk about. I’m just going to be up front and say that Christian men, and Christians in general, have issues with handling both authority and discipline and this failure has lead to a lot of trouble in Western society. As I said in part 1, its not really for lack of trying on the part of men. I think a lot of Christian men have a basic understanding of their role as they authority of the home and the disciplinarian, but they are afraid to use it as it was mean to be used and are actually discouraged by the church to use it as it was meant to be used.

Authority
As a man you have been given, by God, the position of being the authority in your home. YOU set the rules. Though it may be in coordination with your wife, you have the final say. That sounds awful sexist, I’m sure, but looking at it in another light may help you to fully comprehend the gravity of what I am saying:

You, as the man of the house, will some day be held accountable before God Himself, for how you have run your household.

How does God view those who misuse or ignore their authority?

Matthew 25:

14 “Again, it will be like a man going on a journey, who called his servants and entrusted his wealth to them. 15 To one he gave five bags of gold, to another two bags, and to another one bag, each according to his ability. Then he went on his journey. 16 The man who had received five bags of gold went at once and put his money to work and gained five bags more. 17 So also, the one with two bags of gold gained two more. 18 But the man who had received one bag went off, dug a hole in the ground and hid his master’s money.

19 “After a long time the master of those servants returned and settled accounts with them. 20 The man who had received five bags of gold brought the other five. ‘Master,’ he said, ‘you entrusted me with five bags of gold. See, I have gained five more.’

21 “His master replied, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness!’

22 “The man with two bags of gold also came. ‘Master,’ he said, ‘you entrusted me with two bags of gold; see, I have gained two more.’

23 “His master replied, ‘Well done, good and faithful servant! You have been faithful with a few things; I will put you in charge of many things. Come and share your master’s happiness!’

24 “Then the man who had received one bag of gold came. ‘Master,’ he said, ‘I knew that you are a hard man, harvesting where you have not sown and gathering where you have not scattered seed. 25 So I was afraid and went out and hid your gold in the ground. See, here is what belongs to you.’

26 “His master replied, ‘You wicked, lazy servant! So you knew that I harvest where I have not sown and gather where I have not scattered seed? 27 Well then, you should have put my money on deposit with the bankers, so that when I returned I would have received it back with interest.

28 “‘So take the bag of gold from him and give it to the one who has ten bags. 29 For whoever has will be given more, and they will have an abundance. Whoever does not have, even what they have will be taken from them. 30 And throw that worthless servant outside, into the darkness, where there will be weeping and gnashing of teeth.’

These verses describe a situation where a servant was given responsibility for his masters gold and the authority to use it in his masters best interest. Unlike the other servants, however, he ditched out on his responsibility and misused his authority by burying it in the ground and leaving it there until his master returned! He also misused his authority by not using it at all! He took the easy way out by making a decision that enabled him to avoid making decisions! So when the master returned and saw that this servant had basically done nothing he became angry:

26 “His master replied, ‘You wicked, lazy servant! So you knew that I harvest where I have not sown and gather where I have not scattered seed? 27 Well then, you should have put my money on deposit with the bankers, so that when I returned I would have received it back with interest.

Now I don’t know about you, but as Christian men the last thing we should want to hear from our Master is ‘you wicked, lazy servant!’! Not only is that terrifying to think about, but after being chastised the master punishes the servant by stripping him of all he has and throwing him out of his home and out into the darkness! This should terrify us as Christian men! Where is our Masters home? Heaven! And where is the darkness outside of His home? Hell! The bible says that the man who does not provide for his home is worse than an unbeliever, and part of that provision is providing authority and discipline!

As husbands we should not be laying down our mantle of authority. It was given to us for a reason. If you take any other institution on the planet and remove the authority figure from it you will end up with chaos. A military needs a general. A business needs a boss. Even the animals have authority figures, so what makes us think that we can ignore our place as authority and that our families will not have chaos?

Now, authority can be abused, and has been many times in the history of the world, but that is no reason to allow someone to talk you out of your position. Christian husbands should have their authority tempered with the love of God, and a man who calls himself a Christian and abuses his authority should be brought before the church and the appropriate actions taken. In like manner, a man who lays down his authority should also be brought before the church and the right steps take, but in this modern society the churches don’t seem to have much concern about men NOT using their authority, but plenty of churches try and crush men who DO use their authority.

If you are in this situation remember that we are to please God before men, and even if it is difficult, you too will stand before the Almighty and give account for what you have done. Would you rather hear “Well done, good and faithful servant.”, or “You wicked, lazy servant!?. Remember that our time here is short lived, and we should have our mind on spiritual things. The suffering we suffer here on earth is a brief puff of smoke compared to all eternity, and the suffering you may suffer for standing your ground will seem insignificant when you stand before God.

Also I always recommend prayer and fasting if you are going to stand up against the forces that will try to tear you down from being the man of authority you are called to be. It will not be an easy fight, and many will rise against you when the find out what you are doing. Women will rail against you because you will now be considered a sexist, a misogynist and a caveman. Men will rail against you because they don’t understand what you are doing, as they don’t do it themselves. Put on the full armor of God, learn to understand biblical authority be reading the bible about Jesus, who has ALL authority, yet was just, showed love and still chastised those in need.

I’m sure I have probably missed some of my thoughts on all of this, and if I need to I will add more later, but for now, this is good, as the post is already long enough.

Also I will have to write on Discipline later, so this post doesn’t get longer.

 

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Author: SnapperTrx

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