I consider my wife to be ‘moderately feminist’. That is to say that, when held up to her other friends, she is pretty tame. She does have one friend who is a full blown, all out Christo-feminist, who goes to church and praises God and talks about the wage gap and how men subjugate women (while smoking weed and drinking and sleeping with men who aren’t her husband). Because of this I use my wife to kind of gauge where the Christian woman culture is at and where it is headed. Though she has her own issues, I see her as the typical Christian woman, or maybe even a bit better than, seeing as how she hasn’t consciously attached herself to the feminist mindset.
Whine, bitch, moan….
“I don’t need you!”
“I’m an adult!”
“I have a voice!”
“I have a say!”
Husband: “Fine, have it your way.”
Wife: “You don’t love me anymore!”
Note: If this doesn’t apply to you, good.
Look, women are herd creatures. They tend to follow the popular crowd. That’s why we have things like fashion trends and why, when Ellen or Oprah endorses something the manufacturers can hardly keep up with the demand. When the queen bee gives her stamp of approval on something it suddenly becomes all the rage and nearly everyone who is anyone will jump on board the trend train.
A month or so ago (perhaps a bit longer, time flies, after all) an actress came out and accused a Hollywood big wig of raping her. Since that time we have seen actress after actress after actress AFTER ACTRESS coming forward to tell their story of sexual assault, “predatory behavior” (what even is that?) and rape. I mean, forget that these alleged events took place 5, 10, 15, 20 years ago, and that despite these events these ladies continued to work with the alleged perpetrator AND other men accused of the same, or worse. Forget that there is little to no evidence beyond an accusation (though a few of the men accused have stepped forward with admissions of guilt, which will and should be tried in a court of law), and that the accusation is all it is going to take to ruin lives. The last time I checked our justice system didn’t convict on hearsay but on a preponderance of evidence. But it is precious snowflake, holier-than-god women we are talking about here, and (some) cute ones at that, so also know that stuff like evidence and facts are not necessarily required to “convict” a guy.
I’m all for sexual predators getting justice. If a guy genuinely committed a crime then, guess what, he should go to jail. No I don’t think he suffer the worstest penalty ever in the history of the planet because he sexually assaulted a lady. Why would I? Women have so devalued their sexuality and innocence that an actual crime against these virtues is now no surprise or shock. The number of false accusations and women convicted of rape themselves, particularly women teachers, has normalized rape and sexual assault from a crime that draws sharp breaths from the community into one that barely draws a “meh”. I understand it certainly is devastating to the victims of the crime (Unless they were school boys, then its not a big deal and the criminal doesn’t need to spend the rest of their lives in jail, just a year plus community service), but the fact that these women put themselves in the position to allow this to happen (yes, I just said that) makes their victimhood suspect.
“Hey, cutie, come with me, alone, into this hotel room. I ‘just want to talk'”
“Okay, all you ladies line up and take your clothes off.”
“Yeah, baby, Ill make sure you win an Oscar, just drop your panties.”
If these statements don’t come off as lending to the possibility of something relating to sex is about to go down then these women are much more vapid than I thought.
Accusations of sexual assault and rape are all the rage these days, dearie! Everybodies got one! Hurry up and make sure you get yours before they go out of style!
A man approaches a woman at a party.
“Would you have sex with me for one million dollars?”, he asks.
“Well, I suppose.”, she answers, shyly.
“How about for five dollars?”, he asks.
“Hrmph! What kind of woman do you think I am?”, she asks, quite aghast.
“We have determined that!”, he replied, “Now we just need to determine your price!”
This story has been attributed to a number of men, from Albert Einstein to Benjamin Franklin to Winston Churchill. Regardless of who said it, this story perfectly describes the current kerfuffle being raised in women’s sports, Hollywood and modelling.
Over the weekend I celebrated my 22nd anniversary with my wife at Disneyland. It was enjoyable, if not surprisingly hot trip, with temps in Anaheim reaching over 90 degrees. Maybe its a sign of age, but this is the first time in any of our many trips to the park that we had to duck into somewhere and sit for a while to cool of and collect ourselves! That being said, its amazing what a 15 minute break in the air conditioning will do for you. To top it all off there was a Halloween event going on that I didn’t know about, but would explain why it was so difficult to find a hotel room. The one we got was an awful place in what can only be described as the literally butt-crack of Disneyland, and I will never, ever return! I’d rather walk six miles to the park and back than stay in that creepy place again!
That story, however, is not the point of this post (thanks for reading though)! Upon our return Sunday morning we crashed and slept in early only to wake up and find ourselves in needing to prepare for the birthday party of one of my nephews. The little guy is five years old now, and despite my dedication to hanging out with family I would have stayed home and slept, but my wife promised to bring some food, so we had to go. It was a good time and afterward all the family members headed out around the corner to grab some food from a great little pizza place.
This is where things started to get interesting. To me, at least.
There are several Christian women I know of who at least view my blog every so often (you know who you are!) and for those ladies, and any other Christian lady who has an outlook on submission and obedience that is counter-culture not only to worldly culture but church-culture (ie: True submission, not rebellion as the world teaches or ‘rebellion-lite’ like most churches teach) I submit this question:
What was your turning point?
Sure there are some women out there, raised by parents who followed the biblical model of wifely obedience and submission, who were sickened by the rebellion that has been taught to young girls for the past 50 years. Maybe it was never a problem for you to accept the biblical model when you got married, it was jus what you knew.
Maybe you were raised by such parents, but fell into rebellion in your youth, having been told by society that no man should have authority over you. That you should “follow your heart” and the fact that you can think for yourself meant you didn’t need a man to do anything thinking for you. What brought you back? What changed your mind?
Maybe you were raised in a very liberal family who taught you “empowerment”, women’s rights, moxie and all the other buzzwords for rebellion they use out there. Maybe you became a Christian later in life and escaped the churchian teaching to obey your husband, but only enough so that he feels he is in charge of something, and only enough so you can feel better about being a “submissive and obedient” wife because your not actively throwing fits and degrading your husband in public.
Maybe your not a Christian at all but just like the idea of a strong man having authority over you. Maybe you get sexual pleasure out of it, or maybe you just like the feeling of comfort knowing you have a mind of your own, but that someone else is responsible for what goes on in your home and your life. Someone with a plan (most of the time), someone who will take charge and relieve you of that burden.
Any input? Stories you’d like to tell? Advice? Use the comments below!
Why is it that Christians say they know that Gods word and the world conflict, yet they are remiss to do what Gods word says? Instead they follow the worlds word and then can’t figure out why things aren’t working out! A perfect example is a woman’s place in Gods plan for life. Millions of women are suffering from mental disorders that get classified as ‘depression’, and I have no doubt that many do suffer clinical depression from chemical imbalances and such, but how many simply suffer ‘depression’ because they are suffering due to fighting against Gods will?