Loving people (its difficult).

Since I “took the red pill” a few years ago one of the unfortunate side effects has been a more distinct dislike of people. Not just women, but people in general. I think its due to the fact that the red pill makes you more aware of peoples BS and how crappy humanity can actually be. Not that it was a big secret before, but as you start to see the stuff women get away with and the white knights/cowardly men who allow them to get away with it, combined with the way the current system is stacked against normal, masculine men, it makes you more jaded and frustrated.

Red pill sites will tell you that anger is one of the “phases” of the red pill men go through when they final swallow it and start accepting reality. Some guys get stuck there, I guess, and are mad at the world for the rest of their lives. For a Christian it can be especially difficult because we are commanded to love one another and even to love our enemies. How can you do that when you have such disdain and anger towards the people around you. When you hear people saying idiotic things that grate on your nerves, or see them acting like fools so much so that you just want to go punch them in the mouth?

As a Christian I have to remind myself sometimes that Jesus, the master whom I am trying to model myself after, knew everything about the people he spoke to. Every awful thought, every awful thing, stuff that I would never and could never know by just seeing a person or even talking to them. Every dark secret, ever addiction, every horrible thought in the human mind is known to him – Yet he loved us. So much so that, despite knowing all the ugliness we possess he died in our place for our sins.

If he loved us so much, knowing so much about us, then I should be able to show some of that same love towards others, even though it may be difficult, shouldn’t I?

As Christians I think we all know and understand that everyone has sinned and nobody is perfect, yet it can be difficult to remember this fact when you have stupidity, hatefulness and ignorance directly in your face.

Maybe part of spiritual maturity is being able to hold it together and love people knowing they can sometimes be turds. I know I can be one sometimes, but that doesn’t keep Christ from loving me.


So Long, Tom.

As I sit and listen to Tom Petty songs I realize just how many I am familiar with and how many are great. I would never have said I was a huge Tom Petty fan. I don’t know much about the man, and I would be hard pressed to name a song for every finger on both hands, but as I listen I start to recognize songs I have been hearing for decades and I find many of them take me back. Back to riding the bus to school, back to good times with friends, back to little things that don’t make a difference in my life but are oddly cemented memories. Isn’t that part of the power of music, though? To take us back to points both important and mundane? Something about the melody, the voice, the guitar, the beat: Something about that moment in that song that locked something in.

To me, Tom Petty, though I wasn’t super familiar with him as a man, was a great musician. One of a slowly fading line of great musicians. One of the last great rockers and crooners of a time that has passed, but who’s music will live on for generations because it touches something base. A longing, an expectation, an excitement, a sadness.

Rest in Peace, Tom.


As an aside note, when I was younger and watching music television I came across a great song by a band called “The Travelling Wilburys” called “End of the Line”. I didn’t know it at the time, but this super group was comprised of some of the giants of music: Tom Petty, Roy Orbison, Bob Dylan, George Harrison of the Beatles and Jeff Lynne of Electric Light Orchestra. The song seems appropriate for Petty’s passing, so I will post it here.


EDIT: After listening I found another Wilburys song that was familiar. This one includes Roy Orbison, who unfortunately passed away between their first and second album. Its another great tune and also seems appropriate for the day:

Suspected Blue Pills

Recently I have started looking around for a new church to attend, and the choices are many, as it seems my side of town almost literally has a church every few blocks. Now, one might thing this a good thing, but I know of at least a few that are churches in name only, as I am familiar with how they do things within their walls and, personally, do not approve. I have attended at least two of these churches and have left them for various reasons, not all due to conflicts in scripture, but I have watched those churches devolve into places that run based on warped scripture.

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Clearing the Blight.

So, if your a Christian guy like me, married, in your forties (EARLY forties, I found out) you might find yourself in my situation: married to a Christian woman who has been trained, by the church, to study apart from her husband and, if at odds with her husband, to rely on the ‘experts’ rather than following his lead on scripture. She may have been trained to submit only when she feels its appropriate or that “as unto the Lord” (in Ephesians 5:22) means that she is only to submit when she feels her husband is making requests that echo Christ. Perhaps she believes that Paul was a woman-hater and intentionally wrote the prohibitions on women teaching or speaking in the church or covering their heads when they pray because misogyny was a normal as breathing back in ancient times.

And if you were a Christian guy like me, who was trained up very similarly but found out that the church has been being compromised by a feminist mindset and, after much introspection, prayer, reading and research you found it to be true, you might decide it was time to turn back to the bible and get in line with what it really says and means and not what certain people “interpret” it to mean by filtering it through the culture first and coming up with things that make one feel like they are being obedient to Christ when, in fact, they are not (by the bibles standards, not mine).

This being said, how does one proceed convincing ones wife that the church has been training people up in this way? Even if it is not maliciously done, it is still being done! Even if it sounds right to say men and women are equal and that women should be teaching classes and becoming pastors and putting raising a family aside so they can pursue a ‘fulfilling’ career before settling with a sad sap excuse of a man in their 30s and 40s: This doesn’t make it right.

Does one go about pointing out that ones wife is in sin? I mean, full fledged, double-barreled, no-holds-barred, “Hey, you are in sin and this is why. You need to address it?”, or do you go the more slow and subtle route? I mean, sin is sin, and if a fellow brother is doing something in direct violation of the scripture then you need to approach him and tell him straight out, right?

“Look, the bible says x is sin, you are doing x, you are in sin. Repent.”

Seems simple enough, doesn’t it? Does it really work when someone “interprets” a scripture differently than you, though?

I mean, if I tell my wife that wives are told to submit unto their husbands in EVERYTHING as unto the Lord, to me it seems very cut and dry. Submit to your husband, in everything, the same way you would submit to Christ, in everything. To her, however, she might not believe EVERYTHING means EVERYTHING. Why would God tell wives to submit in EVERYTHING when EVERYTHING could mean something bad? And what if she believes that “as unto the Lord” DOES mean “only when the request seems like something Christ himself would ask”?

Any input? Fellow men, what would you do? Fellow women, how would you feel if your husband approached you in such a way? Are we too touchy-feely in our modern world that a man cannot simply approach his wife and tell her she is sinning against God and that she had better straighten up before God decides to correct her?