Guess I’m on a roll today.
So my wife and I are at odds about something. A week or so ago, on a Saturday morning, our house flooded. We were out camping with her church when the kids called around 8am and, since she wanted to stay at the campground and help cook, I left my wife there and headed back to the house, which was only a few miles away from the local lake we were staying at. I called our insurance company right away and got the ball rolling to get the situation handled.
Suffice to say it has been a rough week and a half. It wasn’t too bad, but the water was removed, fans and dehumidifiers placed in the home and holes drilled into the walls to aid in drying. Though my kids stayed in the house (their rooms are upstairs) the wife and I were able to get the insurance company to pay for a hotel room for a few days, which helped.
Fast forward, the insurance adjuster has yet to visit, citing that she needed to wait until the cleanup crew needed to be completely finished with cleaning and drying the house before she could come in and make an assessment of the damage and then a estimate of the cost for repairs. She was supposed to be here last Friday, but called me with the preceding information and we agreed to instead meet on Monday. Monday rolled by and I didn’t see or hear from her until late in the day. She said her notes indicated we were supposed to “get in touch” on Monday and that we could meet Tuesday afternoon. That was fine with me. She said she would be driving in from up North, I assume because she is up there working on all the issues they have had with the fires in Northern CA the past few weeks, of which there was a lot of damage.
Well, my wife was having none of that. She informed me that SHE felt the lady was being unprofessional about not showing up earlier and not being here on Monday, so she was going to issue a formal complaint to the insurance company.
I told her not to. To leave it alone because she was not in the loop to begin with and the lady was only late by one day, if she was late at all.
Didn’t matter. “I’m not arguing.”, she told me. “I’m a part of this too and I can make my own decisions.”
Frustrated I got back to my office and talked to my dad a little about it. His answer to the problem?
“I don’t have an answer.”
The answer SHOULD be, “He is your husband, you need to be obedient and do what he is telling you.”, but it CAN’T be that.
I said something about rules and he told me that he wasn’t sure “setting up rules for your wife is such a good idea”. I asked him “why not”, I mean, we set up rules for finances and all that, why not “don’t mess with the insurance company since you have no idea what’s going on” rules?
I don’t even know where to go to from here.
Sorry, there’s a lot going on in my life right now, I guess. If you get tired of it, read my short review of the game Xenogears.