Ephesians 5:

22 Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23 For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. 24 Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.

Ah, the biblical verses most christian women hate to hear. Submit, they say. And, as we all know, if there is one thing women are not good at, especially christian women, is submission. Oh they say they submit, but the christian definition of the word has been severely changed so that instead of relinquishing your will for the will of one in authority over you the word means to basically do something you were asked to do, but you were going to do anyway, whether you were asked or not. Like the dishes. Many women would say they wash the dirty dishes in the evening after dinner and, so long as he asks correctly, if her husband asks her to do the dishes, well, she was going to do them anyway so – submission! Now, if he commands her to do the dishes, for whatever reason, then he is “lording his authority over her”, and biblical speaking that gives her the right to rebel and ignore him AND not do the dishes! At least that’s what all her books on how to be a better christian wife tell her.

Modern “submission” for christian wives has more to do with their feelings and less to do with their actual submitting, and the church backs this model up! “Real christian men” never ruffle their wives feathers, and they certainly don’t try to use their God given authority for, well, anything! After all, they best lead their wives by grovelling before them and, like Bizarro World, up is down, left is right and leading comes through submitting to your wife! (Goodbye to htraE!)

Of course, all of this weirdness becomes more weird when you actually read the bible and discover that none of this is true. God set an authority structure for a purpose and for the good of both man and woman, despite what women or white knight church pastors might tell you. To disrupt this structure is to go against God, and why would anyone who claims to be a christian want to do that?

Ephesians 5:22 states “Wives, submit your own husbands, as to the Lord”, which simply means, “Just as you would submit to the will of God, in the same way submit to your own husband”. Don’t believe all the tripe that pastors spout, trying to mask or alter the meaning. “As to the Lord” does not mean your husband has to be acting like Christ for your submission to be valid, and the fact that he is not Christ does not give you carte blanche to ignore his commands or requests as you see fit.

Now, the kicker. Ephesians 5 isn’t simply a commandment to wives, its also a scale by which to measure. You see, just as Jesus told the people “he who does not love his brother whom he has seen, how can he love God whom he has not seen? “, “she who does not submit to her own husband whom she has seen, how can she submit to God whom she has not seen”? Many women would claim that despite their lack of submission toward their husbands that they would readily and willfully submit themselves to God without question! Why, it’s The Lord! The King! The Creator of Heaven and Earth! His will is perfect and He alone is worthy of submission!

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In the words of our illustrious President: “Wrong.”

These women fool themselves if they believe they can willfully rebel against their husbands but that they would, without question, submit to God. Your submission toward you husband is a reflection of your submission to God! By willingly avoiding submitting to your husband YOU ARE ALREADY WILLINGLY REBELLING AGAINST GOD! Why? Because the commandment demanding their submission is already right here in the book! A commandment FROM GOD! Yet they brazenly and many times angrily, ignore it or talk it away using tricks or loopholes not present in the text!

Women that do this run dangerously close to being one of those who cried, “Lord, lord, did we not do ‘x’ in your name”, but God said to them, “Depart from me for I do not know you”. Like those people they feed the hungry, worship at church on Sunday and consume tons of religious material all in the name of God, but they fail to obey the most basic commandments of God. Thus they do things for their own glory and not for His. They are like Simon the sorcerer in the book of Acts, who believed in the power of God, seeing the great miracles performed by the disciples, but was not interested in doing what was required of him to gain that power, instead wanting to simply purchase it so that he could glorify himself:

21 You have neither part nor portion in this matter, for your heart is not right in the sight of God.

How can your heart be right to submit to the God whom you cannot see if you cannot first submit to the husband you can see, at the commandment of the God you cannot see?

Take a look in the mirror of submission. What do you see?

And for those women out there who insist that they can rightfully be rebellious because “God doesn’t ask for his daughters to be doormats” I ask you:

If God DID ask you to be a doormat, for His sake, would you?

If you answer yes then you have no argument against submitting to your husband, because God commands your submission to him.

If you answer no then you are an enemy of God because you willingly disobey His commandments.

If you insist that God “would never ask that of one of his daughters” then I posit that you don’t know God at all, and you are living a lie.