Proverbs 21:

19 It is better to dwell in the wilderness, than with a contentious and an angry woman.

Proverbs 27:

15 A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike.

So what is a “contentious” woman, and, a better question, ARE YOU ONE? Let us examine the meaning of the word, via Bing:

Contentious (adjective):

  • causing or likely to cause an argument; controversial
  • involving heated argument
  • (of a person) given to arguing or provoking argument

The bible issues a warning against such women, and not just for men, but for women as well! To men the warning is, avoid these women, while to women the warning is, don’t be one of these women! So, then, what are the signs that you are dealing with this type of woman? Let us look:

  • A woman who always has to have the last word in every conversation: This woman will not shut up and never concedes, even when she is wrong about something. If a man says a tomato is red, she will chime in with “Well its more of a BRIGHT red than just a red” and, if the man mentions that, well, its still red she will reply with “Well, yes, but its not the red you were referring to”, and so on and so on. And she does this not just toward men, but toward everyone she has zero respect for because you will never find her doing this to her boss (unless she has zero respect for him) or other authority figures. Occasionally some women WILL do this to people they respect because it has become so ingrained into their behavior they cannot help themselves, and it tends to get them in deeper trouble with the law and her place of employment.
  • A woman who likes to vocalize her frustrations at others over minor things: This woman has a tendency to make her opinions and frustrations known to others by loudly expressing them regardless of who is around, who they are toward and whether or not her actions will cause an actual confrontation. If someone cuts in front of her at the grocery store she will loudly proclaim how said person is rude and should probably watch where they are going, possibly adding some type of personal insult over how they are dressed or their weight, regardless of whether or not it is a woman or a large, hulking and dangerous looking man. She gives zero thought to the fact that the person her ire is directed at could turn around and confront her or worse. She is woman, hear her roar. She has been slighted and would likely LOVE to get into some type of verbal altercation, since she feels she could shout down any woman with enough balls to get in her face, and is under the impression that a man would never lay a finger on her, even if he’s over six feet tall, dressed like a biker and sporting an arm tattoo that reads “Total rapes since 2002” with seven lines underneath. If your a fellow woman and friend prepare to be embarrassed. If your a man prepare to test either your fast talking skills or your fast fighting skills.
  • A woman who constantly interrupts you: When a woman constantly interrupts you she is telling you that she doesn’t want to hear what you have to say because she thinks she knows better or already knows what your going to say. The problem is that she knows its rude and contentious but doesn’t care because EVERYONE knows that constantly interrupting someone is rude even outside of relationships.

I’m sure there are plenty of other categories, but these few are something that christian men will want to actively avoid in a woman, while christian women should avoid being these women. Christ calls for wives to be obedient to their husbands, not only for the sake of their husbands name but the the sake of Christs name! A contentious and loud woman brings shame to both. Others will look at her and figure both her husband and the God she claims to represent have no control over her or, worse, condone her behavior!

Men, avoid these women. Women, avoid BEING this woman.