Reproach (verb): to address in such a way as to express disapproval or disappointment. (noun) the expression of disapproval or disappointment.

Years ago I was at a men’s group meeting when I got to talking to a new guy. Not just new to our group, but new to christianity – a new believer. We talked for a bit about the experiences that lead him to Christ and also about some of the issues I was having at the moment with my wife. I will never forget the words he spoke to me as I explained the mere surface of the issues I was having at the time, not daring to delve into the depths:

“But I thought christian women were supposed to be obedient to their husbands?”

It was like a punch to the gut. They ARE supposed to be obedient to their husbands, aren’t they?

I recently crossed this verse again, and it’s very stark in its simplicity and its warning:

1 Timothy 5:

14 I will therefore that the younger women marry, bear children, guide the house, give none occasion to the adversary to speak reproachfully.

What Timothy is saying here is that God wills that young women do these things so as not to allow anyone to speak reproachfully of believers! Believers who act worldly bring a bad reputation to the name christian.

This reminded me of another verse which issues practically the same warning in Titus 2:

The aged women likewise, that they be in behaviour as becometh holiness, not false accusers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things;

That they may teach the young women to be sober, to love their husbands, to love their children,

To be discreet, chaste, keepers at home, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God be not blasphemed.

This is a warning from the apostle Paul for christian women to be holy in their behavior so that the word of God is not blasphemed! That is to say, no one can speak ill of it! Many times I have seen christian women doll themselves up and head out with their christian sisters for a night on the town. A night that typically consists of drinking, flirting, dancing and general raunchiness. These are extreme examples, but I think, even more dangerous, are the not so extreme examples.

Many christian women bristle when asked to do something they don’t want to do by their husbands, and get downright hostile when their husbands TELL them to do something. They have no problem being obedient to their bosses at work, even if those bosses are male and even if they don’t like them! The curse, however, raises its ugly head when that man is their husband, and she will readily reject his authority instead of being the obedient wife she is called to be.

In modern society women are pawns in a game of world domination. Instead of being “empowered” like they are told they are, women are used as tools of controlling the masses through the political system. They are easily bought off with votes for “rights for women” that include things like the right to murder their own children free of criminal prosecution, the right to steal from those who work so that they may live without having to work, the right to entrap and prosecute men for their own mistakes and nonsensical behaviors, and many others. I am not saying that men are perfect and do not also succumb to such bribery, but the powers that be in the governments of the West have found a solid voting block in women, and they will do anything to keep from giving that up. Men die earlier than women do. Men stick to their beliefs more than women do, and men fight back against oppression, REAL oppression, more than women do. It makes sense to use the political process as a somewhat non-violent way to control the masses by allowing those who can be easily bought off and swayed to vote.

My post, however, is not about politics, but about asking yourself, if you are a christian woman, whether or not your behavior brings reproach to God’s word or not? If people saw the way you act in the comfort of your home, away from prying eyes, when it comes to how you act with your husband, or with any of the things Paul brings up in Titus, would they shake their heads and ask, “So what makes this christian woman different from a non-christian woman?”, or would they be shocked that a woman would subject herself to being subject to her husband in a way that makes her stand out, and glorifies God?

Or maybe a better question is, how would God say you are doing at representing His name?