One of the very first manospherian posts I remember reading, several years ago, was on how a poll was taking asking Christian women what is the most common and difficult sin facing Christian men today.
Their answer: Lust.
They were then asked what the most common and difficult sin facing Christian women was.
Their answer: Lack of self esteem.
Yes, the sin of woman is not believing enough in herself.
I would like to suggest, however, that women have it half-way backward.
See most people think of lust in sexual terms, which means that these women are insinuating that men are consistently fighting with, and losing, a battle with desiring other women, but this is not the entire definition of the word. A search on the word throughout the King James bible reveals that lust is not always sexual, though it can be, and it is not always described as something bad.
Women are the queens of lust, and I would argue that lust is ten times more a woman issue than a man issue. Women are encouraged to lust in modern Western society, for both people and things. There are entire temples to female lust for things in the form of the neighborhood “mall”. Women lust after men, after clothing, after jewelry, trips, cars, even body shapes. And I dont mean lust in a good way, I mean the pouting, mean-spirited, if-I-can’t-have-it-nobody-can kind of lust that starts at childhood and doesn’t end until their dying breath. Few and far between is the woman who is happy and satisfied with who, where and what they are in life, but the modern West has made this woman even more difficult to find than the most rare of classic cars or baseball cards.
Men are no better, true, as they are also human and have a fallen and sinful nature, but modern women are encouraged through every possible avenue to lust for more. Television, movies, magazines, books: Through every medium woman is told she should never have to settle for second best – hell, not even for FIRST best! She must be unique! She must have what others do not and what they cannot in order to set herself apart and make herself the envy of others!
Christian women are encouraged to lust for position and power:
Why should only men get to be pastors? Women are more spiritual and closer to God! We should get to be leaders, especially over other women! No man can talk to women about their spiritual issues, how could he know what it means to be a woman?
Why should I be completely subservient to my husband? I’m smarter than he is, and besides if I were to be obedient in EVERYTHING like the bible says then he would have me doing sinful things, I know it! I NEED to be in charge of myself at least a little bit, and maybe even a lot!
If you are a woman, don’t be THIS woman. If you are a man, avoid this woman! If you’re already married to this woman, well, you have quite a fight ahead of you, since calling her out on her lust will likely send her into fits of anger and will be seen as you being “unloving”. I would say patience is key here, but no amount of patience is going to change her mind, she needs to understand what the word says about lust and what the word says about her position in the marriage. Those seeking power and position in the church must be stonewalled from gaining a foot through the door and, likely, asked to leave, as, if they continue seeking such positions after being made clearly aware of the restrictions on women teaching made in the bible, they will likely not stop, but will instead rally other women and weak men to their cause.
We must return to the biblical definition of lust in order to weed it out. Attributing it solely to sexual lust and almost solely to men has greatly hampered spiritual growth in women.