Ladies, remember, if you won’t be your husbands cute little sex kitten, someone out there will be. Not to say that another woman is out there trying to lay your husband, but lets face it – women are all about sex. Every morning a certain amount of the female population pushes up their boobs, slips into something form fitting and revealing and paints their lips red with the sole intention of GETTING attention. They don’t want your husbands body, but they do want to take up space in his head. Men, even the best Christian men, are hard wired to notice perky boobs, firm behinds and smoky eyes. There’s nothing wrong with admiring such ladies, so long as that’s all it leads to is admiring, but how many wives out there would be furious to know their husbands found a fleeting interest in a cute little redhead he saw in the grocery store yet would devote little to no effort in making themselves a competitor for their husbands mental attention? Maybe you think that since he is your husband you have no need to be a competitor. After all, he’s already yours, right? Shame on him for admiring another female! And for her body, no less! He probably didn’t even think about her mind!
Let’s be real for a moment: When was the last time your husband saw you all dolled up for him, just for the sake of being dolled up for him? No, not last weekend when you two went out to dinner, or last years Christmas party. Just because, and just for him. When was the last time you did something for him that ensured he would be thinking about you the next day? Remember when you used to be excited to see him and would spend a good hour making sure you looked sexy just to spend fifteen minutes with him before he headed to his job delivering pizzas?
Does he like knee-high socks? Slip some on with your tiny shorts and t-shirt and greet him home for lunch! Does he have a thing for you in a tube top? What’s the harm? Is there a hot little dress he loves to see you in? Slide into it, even if its just for a little while. Do something that will embed yourself into his brain for the day!
Be a contender for his thoughts. If you won’t, there are plenty of others who will.
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this is important to know.
quite a few years ago, with my previous blog, i was in this ‘blog group’ … as we kind of group together out here … and this guy was in the group. he had struggled with porn and prostitutes – the addiction level – and eventually lost his marriage. i honestly don’t remember the details, but i do remember one story he told. he traveled a lot, and he told of how women would sidle up men like him in various places where he stayed on the road. he mentioned how they gave men their attention and listened to them.
i remember thinking, ‘of course they did!’ most women know how to give a man attention when they want to. and it’s easy to do so when there are no strings attached. they can act like they’re listening and not have to retain any of it. it’s an act.
but what i don’t think we women can completely understand is the power this has over men and how they crave it (please correct me if i’m getting this wrong).
the responsibility in a marriage means that we need to listen to our husbands with this kind of rapt attention, give them this kind of attention with every part of us, and then handle it with discreet care and respect. we make it a part of us.
women who are not committed have no reason to be responsible with what men share with them.
but from what i understand, men would be willing to periodically be with a woman who doesn’t really care but who acts like she does over a wife who treats him poorly. because men need respect.
did i get this right?
Mostly right, yes. HUSBANDS, by and large, I think desire to be listened to and empathized with, as well as some other men. There’s definitely a group of men out there, however, who couldn’t care less, they just want physical attraction and sex.
That being said, the post was more about those everyday women that don’t really have any wicked intention of stealing a woman’s husband, but who DO have the intention of looking as nice as they possibly can in order to get attention from any man they can. They aren’t dressing like a two-bit floozy, though most other women would say they are simply because they are dressing up nice in order to accentuate their…um, assets. They aren’t on the hunt for sex, just for attention. Its the ages old joke about the guy at work talking to the office sexpot who’s wearing a tight fitting, almost inappropriate for work, dress because he has to when his wife comes in for a visit and she’s in her typical sweatpants, oversized shirt and house slippers. Not that its an off day for her, but when this is her normal attire and she doesn’t feel the need to dress up for her husband anymore she has no right to get mad when her husband finds another woman attractive.
Spending some time getting dolled up a couple of days a week shouldn’t be the burden I’ve heard some women make it out to be. And it doesn’t even have to be all that time consuming! Heck, if I came home and my wife was wandering around in her shorts and knee socks I’d be thinking about her for the rest of the day! 😆
What do you think of a man who isn’t getting any action with his wife taking another wife and having sexual relations with wife 2 instead?
It is permissible in scripture, so if you can attract a second woman as a wife then go for it. Inherently, in todays society, there are a lot of obstacles to overcome with that solution, though.
1. You have to have wife 1 on board. If she isn’t she can leave, which isn’t anything bad for you scripturally, but legally she can cause you all kinds of havoc. Scripturally, however, she is in the wrong. If she leaves she is being disobedient to the word which commands Christians not to depart one another. If she divorces through the legal system God does not recognize her divorce and if she remarries she is committing adultery. Since society has raised men and women to believe monogamy is the only thing God allows for the last couple hundred years it can be really difficult to find two women on board to be wives, but it can be done.
2. You have to be able to attract a woman willing to be a second wife. This means she would have to understand that she will be under your authority and under the general authority of your first wife. Not exactly the message of empowerment the majority of women are taught these days but, again, certain subcultures in the U.S. do bring their women up to accept this. However, this also means you have to be attractive enough and make enough money to pull a second wife. If your as old as I am (42) you may be able to find a nice Christian widow who would benefit physically and financially from being an additional wife, but even then she would have to be of the understanding that it is not against scripture and is not a sin.
3. Most other Christians will disdain you for your decision to have more than one wife. They have been taught that having more than one wife was actual a sin that God allowed people in the old testament, as if He ever allowed mankind a free pass to sin! God offered David all of Saul’s wives and then more if he had asked (2 Samuel 12), but the female imperative has made teachings like this invisible and has generated a number of “translations and interpretations” that sidestep them.
Beyond that, I say more power to you if you can do it! Or, even better, if you can keep both wives happy and enjoy both of them sexually then right on! Scripturally nothing forbids having your wives in bed with you for sex, or forbids them from enjoying each other either in your presence or without. Many blogs and articles I have read have stated that having more than one wife can actually be beneficial in that it injects a little healthy competition between the ladies, gives them a built in friend to chat with and go do things with and financially it adds another income stream to the house while leaving at least one person home to care for the house or kids.
If this is your plan, then good luck, and god speed. To me one wife is a blessing, and two would be a double blessing, if God wills it.
It angers me that women all want a man who makes ££££££ and yet they A) take well paid jobs because they want independence and B) almost universally vote for more taxes to fund welfare. I’ve spoken to women who bitch, moan whine and complain about work and who want a well paid man and in the same breath push women making lots of money. How can women be so stupid that they would all love to marry a doctor and yet at the same time they want more women doctors (which means fewer male doctors).
I’ve heard it’s the case that single 20/30 year old women make more money than men do, and they have the audacity to bitch, moan, whine and complain about the lack of good men to marry!
Are women going to be held to account for how they have behaved? Because right now we are in the century of the Vagina and women can get away literally with murder!
It has to do with in-group bias amongst women. Women are, by nature, herd creatures and will protect their own even at the expense of men and children. The safety net of welfare is one of the products of this. Who cares if men suffer, even their own husbands, so long as women are safe if they are abandoned, left at the altar or suffer a pregnancy from a one-night-stand-cad. This is one of the reasons why they aren’t allowed to teach scripture:
https://snappertrx.wordpress.com/2016/08/04/female-in-group-bias-and-scripture/
But what do we do about this Snapper? Women and manginas are the majority of voters and things are so bad that you can’t even talk about this stuff with 99% of women and a lot of the men because they start screaming at you.
Personally I think the only thing we can do at this point is go back to the roots of the church and for men who are aware of the cancer that is “strange doctrine” to begin to invite other men into their homes for a true church bible study. I’ve been toying with the idea for the past year or so after having left my old church over women teaching the congregation. The only reason I haven’t done so yet is because I want to make sure I’m sure of what I am talking about before I try to take on the mantle of someone trying to start a church, even a home church. I figure if I can at least get some guys together who are questioning the narrative and we can read and talk about the word its one-thousand times better than what goes on in modern churches. NO WOMEN ALLOWED! Plain and simple! If any wives are in attendance they can tend to other things and talk amongst themselves, but the study of the bible will be done by the men and the women can do like the bible says and learn from their husbands at home. In addition the men could hopefully spend some time outside of church doing guy stuff like weights, sports, shooting, gaming, smoking cigars and enjoying some bourbon. I read a great article on the site The Art of Manliness (I read the site with a grain of salt, as they have some good articles but make some odd decisions in letting women speak about how to be a man in some of their podcasts) about the Masculine Christianity movement. It made a ton of sense! It used to be that men had to be a brotherhood in ancient times. As technology got more advanced that stopped and now we dont even know our neighbors. We sit on our butts all day long and become pudgy and weak. That messes with our bodies and minds and makes us slaves. Slaves to other men through work. Slaves to our wives when we aren’t masculine enough to take the reins in our marriages like we are supposed to – its not good!
Read this article. Its long, but fascinating: https://www.artofmanliness.com/articles/the-feminization-of-christianity/
I’ve been thinking about pulling the trigger on searching for like minded men for a physical church meet up, and may do it soon. Ill keep the blog posted.
I’ve read the article before. It’ll be interesting to see if average women (who can’t find husbands) start loudly demanding churches become more friendly to men as that’s one of the few ways churches will ever change. There’s going to be LOADS of strong empowered wimminz who are stuck in singleness (and growing increasingly desperate) and if they ever form a block and demand things change they may get what they want. Or a few of them will go join polygamous relationships whilst the rest become bitter cat ladies.