It is routinely taught in the church (at least, in the church’s I have attended) and in bible studies that the example of wifely submission found in 1 Peter 3 should be ignored by women:

1 Peter 3:

Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.

“Sarah is the example,” Pastors tell the ladies, “But you don’t have to go calling your husband ‘lord’ or being a *GASP* doormat!”

But remember, ladies, if you don’t have to adhere to the commandments given you, then men shouldn’t need to adhere to the commandments given them either:

Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of the grace of life, that your prayers may not be hindered.

Both commandments come with a promise. For the ladies: You are known as daughters of the holy women of God if you do good and are not afraid with any terror, just as Sarah did. For the men: Your prayers will not be hindered.

Why, then, if you are given this promise, would you deny yourself being recognized as a daughter of the holy women in scripture AND being precious in the sight of God? Why do we routinely remind men that NOT dwelling with their wives “with understanding, giving honor to the wife, as to the weaker vessel” that their prayers won’t go any higher than the ceiling, yet in the same breath tell women that they shouldn’t pursue a promise of God! In fact, the promise of God, in these passages, is derided as a BAD thing for women!

“You are being TOO obedient!”

“Don’t be a doormat!”

“Fear the ‘sin’ of being subservient!”
(Which is a made-up sin, btw. Adding to the scripture much?”)

The bible commands slaves to be subservient to the masters even if the slaves have given their lives to Christ and their masters haven’t! Then it uses the world LIKEWISE when speaking to wives! LIKEWISE! Meaning, IN THE SAME MANNER!

1 Peter 2:

18 Servants, be submissive to your masters with all fear, not only to the good and gentle, but also to the harsh. 19 For this is commendable, if because of conscience toward God one endures grief, suffering wrongfully. 20 For what credit is it if, when you are beaten for your faults, you take it patiently? But when you do good and suffer, if you take it patiently, this is commendable before God. 21 For to this you were called, because Christ also suffered for us, leaving us an example, that you should follow His steps:

22 “Who committed no sin,
Nor was deceit found in His mouth”

23 who, when He was reviled, did not revile in return; when He suffered, He did not threaten, but committed Himself to Him who judges righteously; 24 who Himself bore our sins in His own body on the tree, that we, having died to sins, might live for righteousness—by whose stripes you were healed. 25 For you were like sheep going astray, but have now returned to the Shepherd and Overseer of your souls.

1 Peter 3:

Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives, when they observe your chaste conduct accompanied by fear. Do not let your adornment be merely outward—arranging the hair, wearing gold, or putting on fine apparel— rather let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God. For in this manner, in former times, the holy women who trusted in God also adorned themselves, being submissive to their own husbands, as Sarah obeyed Abraham, calling him lord, whose daughters you are if you do good and are not afraid with any terror.

You are being told to DENY A PROMISE OF GOD AND TO DENY BEING CHRIST LIKE!

Read the above passages!

Christ suffered though he committed no sin.
Servants, be like Christ and follow in his steps!
Likewise, wives!

WAIT! WHAT?

Servants, obey your masters if they are good, but also obey them if they are harsh because your obedience and suffering is credited to you for it!
Likewise, wives!

WHAT KIND OF BASS ACKWARDS SCRIPTURE IS THIS?

Doesn’t Peter know about the sin of “subservience”? Doesn’t he know women SUFFER when they are obedient to their husbands because their quiet obedience automatically turns their husbands into perverted, iron-fisted dictators who will instantly want her to rob a bank, do cocaine and participate in an orgy? All in the same day?

Ladies, listen! If you believe the pap from the pulpit on this one then you are LITERALLY missing out on a WELLSPRING of godly blessing! It is the literal MOTHERLODE of untapped treasure in plain sight! Not only do you gain the notoriety as a “daughter of the holy women of the bible” but you are credited for suffering, if any! If your husband is already a Christian then chances are he is not going to be seeking out to cause you suffering, though you may suffer from some of his decisions. If your husband is not a Christian then your suffering a credit to you and commendable in Gods eyes! Not only that, but the word says that your silent suffering IS A WITNESS AND TESTIMONY TO YOUR HUSBAND, AND THAT SOME MAY EVEN BE WON TO CHRIST BY IT! You are being told to IGNORE a blessing of God! Imagine standing in front of a pile, a MOUNTAIN of gold, jewels and fine stones with a big sign next to it that says “FREE! TAKE ALL YOU WANT!”, and then being told by someone to IGNORE THE PILE because it means you actually have to walk over to it, bend down and pick it up?

The kicker? YOUR ALREADY SUFFERING ANYWAY WHEN YOU ARE DISOBEDIENT TO YOUR HUSBAND, BUT YOU GAIN NOTHING FOR IT! NOTHING! When you are disobedient and rebellious it causes you and your husband to suffer needlessly! You get absolutely nothing from it beyond the suffering!

The choice is yours, ladies! Read the scripture and pray for understanding! Too many Western churches have been compromised by feminist thinking and preach that women should NEVER have to suffer, but God says suffering in the life of a Christian is not intended purely for bad! Suffering produces faith and builds the strong Christian!

Are you willing to suffer for Christ so long as it isn’t in your own home?