Over the weekend I celebrated my 22nd anniversary with my wife at Disneyland. It was enjoyable, if not surprisingly hot trip, with temps in Anaheim reaching over 90 degrees. Maybe its a sign of age, but this is the first time in any of our many trips to the park that we had to duck into somewhere and sit for a while to cool of and collect ourselves! That being said, its amazing what a 15 minute break in the air conditioning will do for you. To top it all off there was a Halloween event going on that I didn’t know about, but would explain why it was so difficult to find a hotel room. The one we got was an awful place in what can only be described as the literally butt-crack of Disneyland, and I will never, ever return! I’d rather walk six miles to the park and back than stay in that creepy place again!

That story, however, is not the point of this post (thanks for reading though)! Upon our return Sunday morning we crashed and slept in early only to wake up and find ourselves in needing to prepare for the birthday party of one of my nephews. The little guy is five years old now, and despite my dedication to hanging out with family I would have stayed home and slept, but my wife promised to bring some food, so we had to go. It was a good time and afterward all the family members headed out around the corner to grab some food from a great little pizza place.

This is where things started to get interesting. To me, at least.

Recently my daughter has taken steps toward going into the air force. When she informed my wife and I of this I protested and went through the many reasons I consider this to be a bad idea, as well as the biblical reasoning behind my not being on board with her and my wife. As you may have guessed, it made little difference. Both my wife and my daughter have been raised in feminist society and unfortunately I partially share the blame, having helped raise my daughter with a nasty “girls can do everything” attitude during her younger years (let this be a warning to you new fathers or fathers to be). It has caused more than a little strain between all of us.

At the same time I have two nieces who are approaching the end of their high school years and I am listening to their parents (my sisters) talk about how their plans include going to college, getting bachelors degrees and masters degrees, as well as possible stints in the military.

Though I could speak up I choose not to because it would make absolutely little difference. Though I love my family we have all been raised in the age of feminism and moxie, and not a single adult in the group would agree with me. In fact, it would likely end up in a massive argument.

Modern society and feminists like to talk about “double standards”, how girls are expected to act a certain way and how they are treated another compared to when men do the same things. They would be partially right, as there certainly are double standards and they are there for a reason (double standards imposed by biology cannot be changed, sorry!). However, lets stop for a moment and take a look at a double standard that is rarely talked about, but is very prevalent in modern Christian society: The double standard of the responsibilities of men and women.

No one in the church would argue that men are tasked with several responsibilities in scripture. We are told that a man who does not provide for his household is “worse than an unbeliever”, so providing for your family is a requirement, which typically means working a job of sorts in order to earn an income. Men are tasked with being the leaders of their homes, a job that has, in recent decades, been usurped by their wives along with the help of the state and the church. Men are tasked with being evangelists, as Christ called each of us to be “fishers of men”, meaning it is of great importance that we understand our relationship with Christ and the sacrifice that was made for humanity. Though not so much now days, men are expected to protect their families and property from harm. Despite the lack of raiding brigands or feral beasts, most men are still held responsible for their families protection in the event of a fire in the home or a break in. Men who eschew violence are seen as weak and effeminate, and rightly so! Though no man should go seeking violence (those are called ‘criminals’) no man should be afraid of committing violence to protect the ones he loves. Whether its through hand to hand combat or through weapons training, every man should know how to defend himself and others, and, trust me, EVERY CHURCH MEMBER IN ANY CHURCH WILL GO ON AND ON ABOUT HOW A MAN MUST BE WILLING TO DIE FOR THE ONES HE LOVES, JUST AS CHRIST DIED FOR HIS CHURCH.

As you can see, the responsibilities and expectations for men can be readily found in the scriptures and there are plenty of people who will point out the fact while holding men accountable to said expectations.

The women of the church, however, seem to live in some kind of wishy-washy, Jell-O structure of responsibility that no one can define. Where men are expected to do x, y and z by getting a job, learning to be a man and studying their bibles women, for some reason, cannot have their responsibilities be so well defined.

“How do YOU know what God wants for her?”, will be the question. The bible has responsibilities for women as well: To be a helpmeet for her husband, to raise his children and keep his home. For older women the expectation is for them to teach the younger how do such things, as prescribed in Titus. Yet these things are overlooked in Christian society and women are rarely held to these expectations. Telling a woman or a young girl that they would best serve the Lord by getting married, having children and being a good wife will be met with howls of protest!

“How do YOU know that’s how God wants her to serve Him?”

The scriptures that define why woman was even made, as a helpmeet for her husband, are ignored. Yes, THE PRIMARY REASON FOR WOMANS EXISTANCE IS TOSSED TO THE WAYSIDE IN THE NAME OF FEMINIST EMPOWERMENT. The responsibility of having children, ignored so she can get a degree. The call for her to teach younger women how to be chaste, to love their husbands, to love their children, keepers of the home and obedient will be replaced with instructions on how to not be a “doormat” and how women “have a brain too and need to be heard”! The silent submission that makes up their testimony and has the power to bring their unbelieving husband to Christ is replaced by endless streams of words, followed by violent actions in an attempt to “bring things to a head” and force a husband to do her will.

Men’s responsibilities are clearly stated and easily found, while women’s responsibilities seem to remain shrouded in mystery.

Men: God wants you to get married, get a job, raise godly children, protect them and leave them an inheritance!

Women: You need to pray about where God wants to lead you! Maybe you will go on a mission trip! Maybe he wants you to get a degree and spread the gospel to all the people you will meet in school! Don’t even consider having kids until your at least 30, or just adopt some kids if you don’t want to have any of your own! Don’t let anyone tell you what to do! This is 2017! Women are liberated from the heavy, controlling hand of men, who have oppressed us for hundreds, if not THOUSANDS of years! No one can tell you what God has planned for your life! He can use you wherever you are!

God used Jonah where he was too, but Jonah’s life would have been much, much easier if he had listened to Gods plan for him instead of being disobedient.

Moses was used by God as well, for many great things, but his failure to listen to Gods plan caused him to be left outside of the promised land.

What do you think? Do you see what I see or do you think I’m way off base? What would you do in my situation?