Many Christian women would claim they, in fact, ARE submissive and obedient to their husbands, despite what their husbands might think or say. Little do they know that there is a simple test that can be done to help determine, with 100% accuracy, if you are, in fact, a biblically submissive wife.
Simply ask yourself this question:
“Do I do what my husband tells me to do, when he tells me to do it?”
A yes answer means you are a biblically submissive wife! Congrats!
A no answer or an answer that involves a lot of rules and regulations that must be personally met before you do what your told means you are not a biblically submissive wife.
Are you mad? You can be if you want, but I didn’t write the biblical standard:
Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body.
Who are women to submit to? Their husbands. How are they to submit to them? As unto the Lord. The example set is the church’s submission to Christ. How does the church submit to Christ? Well, if its an actual, God-fearing Christian church then they submit to Him in everything, understanding that Gods will is perfect and His commandments are meant to be good for us. Now, husbands aren’t God, of course, but Gods commandment for wives to submit to their husbands as the church submits to Him is meant to be good. If you have issue with this then you question the wisdom and perfection of God Himself. You can claim this is not true, but if you claim something is perfect except for X, then you claim something is perfect but do not believe it. There cannot be an exception for something you claim is perfect.
Likewise a Christian wife who proclaims that she loves God and believes He is good and perfect lies when she says she cannot submit to her husband for whatever reason. You deny the perfection and wisdom of God! Is this really where you want to be? Sure your husband makes mistakes and may even blatantly decide to do something stupid, but do you think that God is not aware of what is happening? Is God omnipresent and omniscient except for where your husband is concerned?
Personally I don’t see anything wrong with a wife asking questions about something she has been asked to do by her husband, but she should be ready to accept an answer of “because I said” and complete the task. As I have stated before, it may be wise for a man to consult his wife over an issue, but that is really up to him and varies from woman to woman and is not a requirement. If you can show me a scripture that makes it a sin or requires a husband to consult his wife over a decision or action then I will gladly look over it and pray about it because, to date, I have not seen one.
Modern women ‘teachers’, counselors, family members and friends who preach anything but what the bible says are preaching wrong gospel. Read the preceding verses again. Look them up and read the whole chapter, from start to finish! There are no qualifiers, no exceptions, no ifs, ands or buts. Any ‘Christian’ woman that instructs another Christian woman to do anything but submit to her husband instructs her to sin.
The ONLY exception to this could be if a husband asked his wife to outright go against Gods direct commandments (ie: shall not bear false witness, shall not murder, shall not steal, shall have no other gods before me, etc.). I know some others feel that this is not the case and that a wife should obey even if her husband commands her to do these things, but I cannot say that, at this moment, I can agree. A wife should not:
- Obey to commit murder (of another person or abortion)
- Obey to bear false witness against another
- Obey to bow down before false gods/idols
- Obey to commit adultery with another mans wife or with another man
However, a woman with a Christian husband should have little to worry about, as I don’t see 99.9% of Christian husbands asking their wives to do any of these things. If you are a wife who accepted Christ and your husband is still a non-believer then, though you are bound to submit to your husband, I do not believe, at this time, you would be required to submit to him in these cases. Perhaps it would be wise to suggest an alternative method to completing the task or helping him achieve his goal that would not cause you to sin against God. I may be wrong in this, as scripture instructs:
Ephesians 5: 23-25
For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is head of the church; and He is the Savior of the body. Therefore, just as the church is subject to Christ, so let the wives be to their own husbands in everything.
The question boils down to, “What does EVERYTHING mean?”. God commanded Abraham to kill his own son in sacrifice and Abraham obeyed. He commanded the children of Israel to kill every man, woman and child of their enemies, even the animals. To me that is obedience to EVERYTHING, but in both instances the ones being commanded remembered that God was in control and that His commandments were good, even if they seemed to not make sense to the human mind.
This, however, leads into another question altogether – one I am not prepared to discuss on this blog at the moment, but one that has been rolling around in my head for some time. Until I can pray about, fast about and answer the question, I would rather not entertain it and the preceding exception will apply, to me, at least.
Remember, in the end you aren’t going to be answering to feminists, friends, your husband or even yourself – you will be answering to the one who created you – God. No other standard matters except the one set forth by Him. Can you honestly look at yourself and say that you even try to meet the standard? We are human, and we all fail, but there is a difference between trying and failing, and being outright disobedient because we don’t like the way the standard makes us feel. Despite what some people might teach, Gods word does not care about time periods or culture – what pleased Him two thousand years ago pleases Him now and what offended him two thousand years ago offends Him now. Unless something in the bible directly indicates God has changed His mind on something then it would be wise to assume He has not changed His mind.
It would be wise to remember this when arguing about how much different the culture of biblical times was opposed to modern culture. Though culture has changed drastically, our God has not.