So the backlash of change is hitting me with both barrels. Both my kids have let me know that they have no desire to bible study with me because they either don’t agree with what I have been teaching them or they don’t like that I have become, as they put it, so “I’m the man, I’m the dad, I have the authority”.
My youngest son has informed me that he doesn’t understand why I have turned into what I have turned into or why I bring up relationship and man/woman stuff so much around him. He is 17 years old, quite tall and a rocker in a band where he plays several instruments. I told him that he might not fully understand or agree with everything I say until he gets older and starts to experience life outside of school, and I think his being brought up in a society that wants to make men and women equal in everything, facts, science and God be damned.
My daughter said that she just flat out doesn’t agree with me when I tell them what the bible says about the authority of fathers over daughters or husbands over wives. She insists that she reads her bible at work (which she does), but she asks other people questions about what things mean – people like her mother and her nana, which would be fine except, as I have explained in the past, I have issue with both. My wife is often disrespectful, disobedient and submissive and my mother in law, though I love her very much, has not had a great marriage (she and her husband are officially divorced yet they have lived together for a very long time and have a rocky relationship to say the least).
My wife needs no introduction if you have read my blog much. I love her but her continued rebellion and disrespect is frustrating. It comes and goes, of course, and we may go weeks without issue until we run into an issue where I try to use my authority to do something she doesn’t want to do.
Some days I think it would be easier just to give in. Some days I think it would just be easier to disappear. Some days I want to fight to make things right, but in the end it isn’t up to me, its up to those in my family to be obedient, to be respectful and to do what is commanded of them. Not by me, but by Christ. Each of these people carry the name Christian, but what good is the name if you don’t live the life? Yeah, so you don’t go out and drink or do drugs or sleep around, but is it really obedience if you “don’t sweat the small stuff”? I don’t expect them to be perfect, but I do expect some kind of effort. And this, people, is where things go wrong. I’m not “fun dad” anymore, at least not 24/7. Now I am dad who has expectations and dad who wants to see his family be who they say they are. Dad who wants to be radically different by actually doing what the bible says and not adding a bunch of clutter between point A and point B. The more clutter you add between points the easier it is to say, “well, I don’t do things that way” or “well we really don’t have to do things like that because of x, y or z”. This additional clutter has lead the modern church and modern Christians to find all manner of getting around Gods word without making them feel like are doing so. I don’t want that for my family.
I may not be accountable for their salvation or for the decisions they make as adults, but I will make sure they understand before they leave my home to love Christ is to obey His commandments, what those commandments are and what troubles they may run into should they choose not to obey.