If you are familiar with any of the ‘manosphere’ then you may be familiar with the terms ‘white knight’ and ‘black knighting’.
I think everyone is familiar with the white knight meme, and probably knows more than a few. White knights love to charge in wherever men may be challenging women, actually holding them to a standard or calling them out on something and proceed to verbally assault them because – well, because poor, soft, independent, strong women. Spewing the word ‘sir’ way too much, they hold onto an overdeveloped and one sided sense of chivalry. Rather than it being the two way street it was intended to be (womanly virtue for manly protection) it has become a system where women are allowed to do whatever they please while men stand, shield in hand, ready to prevent them from suffering the consequences of their actions.
Black knighting is a difficult term to define. Try looking it up on Urban Dictionary and you won’t see a proper definition. White knights define it as simply “being an ass to make yourself appear to be an alpha male”, but that’s not what it is. You really have to see it to understand it. I define it as a “I don’t conform to your silly rules so I will do whatever I can to point them out and ridicule them” kind of attitude. It’s not something someone does to “act alpha”, its what an alpha does because he sees the inherent stupidity of stupid things. This article is a prime example of one of the many facets of black knighting. Some other examples include merely telling a woman her crap stinks and, very publically, calling her out on something and exposing her hypocrisy or foolishness.
I don’t know how effective a technique this is to use against people because, really, the one black knighting is the only one “in on the joke”, but I think that’s the point.
Onto the main point of my post.
Earlier this week I had a talk with my daughter about some of the things her mother and grandmother post to Facebook. Here are a few examples:
Typically these wouldn’t be an issue, despite the fact that the majority of them are just dumb, fluff memes. Where I take issue is that both my wife and MIL proudly wear the badge of a Christian, being, one who follows Christ. These memes, though they satisfy a woman’s desire for validation and create an emotional high, are not even close to being something biblical. Why then, are Christian women posting these all over the place? You see, its not just my wife and MIL, there are hundreds of Christian women that post these things every day. To me that is a problem. Why?
3 the older women likewise, that they be reverent in behavior, not slanderers, not given to much wine, teachers of good things— 4 that they admonish the young women to love their husbands, to love their children, 5 to be discreet, chaste, homemakers, good, obedient to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be blasphemed.
Here we see that God calls for older women to teach younger women some specific things, none of which include goofy, emotional memes like the ones above. In fact, these memes have the complete opposite effect of scripture in that we, as Christians, are called to bring our pains and sufferings to Christ, not to Facebook.
Lately I have started pondering doing some of my own ‘black knighting’ on some of these posts, as I feel that someone, ANYONE should be calling these women out on their bad judgements and possible disobedience to the word of God. These ladies should be setting good examples for younger women, but this is no good example. When I spoke to my daughter she, fortunately, said that she noticed some of these posts, but she doesn’t pay attention to them because she doesn’t believe in “getting dating advice from Facebook”. I had to redirect her a little bit to help her understand that it wasn’t just “dating advice” I was concerned about her picking up on, but rather spiritual advice. We should seek solace in the words of God, not silly memes. It was a difficult conversation, as it directly involved me pointing out the posts by her mom and grandma.
I spent a little time crafting some response images to post when I see these things pop up, though I remiss to use them. Again, the issue I see with black knighting is that the one doing it is, really, the only one in on the joke. Most people would be clueless and just see him as “being an ass” and write the response off as just some guy being a jerk. That doesn’t mean, however, that the action doesn’t have SOME effect, in that it could, possibly, cause people to think about what they are agreeing with, and could be a startk eye opener for the target of said knighting. Some images:
These are just a few of the different response images I whipped up one day when I was bored and fed up with seeing silly things posted on Facebook. I don’t really know if I will use them (though I have used a couple in the past – mostly the Facebook addiction one), but I sure feel the need to. I just have the feeling that it will do little to no good. I don’t know, but I do know I am getting tired of Facebook fast and, if I didn’t have a store set up there already, I would likely just leave. In fact, my store hasn’t sold a single thing yet, so I may yet decide to pack up and leave. What do you think?