Why do so many Christian women act like this? I suspect its because they have been raised in a feminist society and, despite their Christianity, nearly every one of them has a streak of feminism in them. They can’t help it, it’s how their brains are programmed and it takes a woman who is very strong in relationship with Christ to see it within herself and kill it. Christian wives should be submitting and conforming to their husbands leadership, but instead we get this – an attitude of ‘if you don’t like how I am then tough luck’. I had said in an older post that at some point all women hit The Wall and lose their outer beauty. When that happens all that’s left is their inner self, which can be extremely ugly. Unfortunately there is no makeup or medical procedure that can be purchased to hide that mess – only a heart transplant can fix it (if you know what I mean). This attitude not only hastens the inevitable meeting with The Wall, but it seriously destroys a woman’s inner beauty. Don’t believe me? Wait until your old, wrinkled and ignored by most everyone and suddenly realize that your husband looks at you with both sadness and disdain in his eyes. Sadness because he knows that you were once a woman he loved and cared for, and disdain because your bitter attitude killed that woman, and replaced it with a soulless hag.
I see a perfect example of this in the grandparents of a friend. The husband is an shrunken old preacher while the wife is a heavy-set harpy who can never be wrong. The husband is dying. He is old and tired, having had to go through multiple medical procedures these past couple of years. He requires round the clock medical attention and several medications, but his wife will not allow it. She will not allow the home care nurse into the house. She goes on and on about how they cannot afford the medication he needs to be taking. She controls every aspect of her husbands life and he is unable to do anything about it due to his medical conditions. The poor man has confessed that he is ready to go, longing to be free from this world and at home in the next. He may love his wife, even still, but I doubt he likes her at all. Her attitude is unchangeable, but only because she chooses not to change it.
Is that what the definition of being a helpmeet has turned into? Have we replaced “Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands, that even if some do not obey the word, they, without a word, may be won by the conduct of their wives,…” with “If you can’t handle me at my worst then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best.” The latter may sound really cool, but it is hardly scriptural.
Should men begin to apply this same attitude to their lives? If you cannot accept me beating you when I am angry then you sure as hell don’t deserve my gifts to you when I am happy! If you cannot accept me when I am unemployed and we are living on the streets then you sure as hell don’t deserve me when I am making millions and have a beautiful house on the coast!
Doesn’t sound as great when its put that way, does it?
Society has trained women to think they are angels. Spotless and blameless. Men are supposed to feel blessed to even be in their presence – garbage, all of it. Christian women, most of all, should know that God has an expectation of them, and they should do everything they can to meet that expectation because it pleases Him who expects it. What is that expectation? See the above paragraph, in bold, but beware, once you know, you are accountable.
47 And that servant who knew his master’s will, and did not prepare himself or do according to his will, shall be beaten with many stripes. 48 But he who did not know, yet committed things deserving of stripes, shall be beaten with few. For everyone to whom much is given, from him much will be required; and to whom much has been committed, of him they will ask the more.