I have a question for Christian women out there, and it’s a serious one:
Are you actively working to be the helpmeet to your husband you are called to be, or is he simply taking whatever help you choose to give?
To better clarify let me break the question down a little:
Can your husband ask you for assistance in a particular area or task and fully expect and trust you to complete it, even if it is not something you normally tend to or causes you to go out of your way? For example: You typically go to the gym on Monday nights, but because he is travelling on Tuesday your husband asks you to stay home and help him get ready by cooking dinner (which he normally does on Mondays) and getting certain laundry he needs done so he can get to bed early in preparation for a long drive. (the example is oddly specific, but no, is not a situation I am familiar with)
When your husband asks you to stay home you tell him you won’t because you normally go to the gym on Mondays and you don’t want to miss your class but if you get back in time you will see about getting his laundry done and he can order a pizza or something if he doesn’t want to make dinner, but, you are not going to miss your class.
One is an example of helping where he needs it, the other is giving your help where you can spare it. Or, I guess a better description is, one is actually being helpful, the other is not.
My purpose in this post, however, is not to be accusatory, but I guess to find out what a woman’s definition of ‘help’ is. I suppose some ladies would say “Well I help him by keeping the house clean, making his meals and washing his clothes!”, but is that really help or just your daily routine. I mean, it certainly is helpful, but is it helpful to you if your husband goes to work every day, maintains the car and the yard but, when asked if he can help with a specific task he simply says “No”?